Lube and Conception & Pregnancy

If you’re trying to get pregnant, we recommend that you use a fertility-friendly lube, such as Pre-Seed or YES Baby. Most lubes, unless otherwise specified, have been shown in clinical studies to reduce sperm mobility. (Although, hey now -- don’t get carried away, all you folks who don’t want to get pregnant. You can absolutely still get pregnant if you’re using lube; make no mistake.) We’re simply saying that, if you’re actively trying to get pregnant, we recommend an expressly fertility-friendly lube. Many vulva-owners experience stress when attempting to conceive; 75% of vulva-owners trying to conceive experience stress-related vaginal dryness. A fertility-friendly lube like Pre-Seed or YES Baby, then, works by mimicking a vulva-owner’s fertile body fluids. Usually, fertility-friendly lubes come with disposable applicators so you can adequately lubricate inside and out before intercourse. The lube actually assists rather than hinders sperm mobility, and it feels great to boot.


Some vulva-owners experience severe vaginal dryness during pregnancy, so lube could become even more crucial to happy, healthy sexy times. As far as the best types of lubes to use while pregnant, we recommend all-natural water-based formulas. See the water-based section above for our water-based recommendations.


Desensitizing or Numbing Lubes

Some lubricants contain lidocaine or benzocaine, which are supposed to numb or desensitize body parts, like the anus or vagina. Sometimes, they’re also used to dull sensation in the penis in order for a penis-owner to “last longer” during intercourse. Numbing lubes are most typically touted for use, however, during anal sex. At The CSPH, we don’t recommend these products; in fact, we recommend that you actively steer clear of them. Contrary what some folks have mistakenly come to believe, anal sex should not be painful. No type of sex should be. If any type of sex is painful or uncomfortable for you, that is your body attempting to send you an important signal. When your body signals that something is painful, it’s best to take heed rather than cover up the sensation. If you block or numb your pain receptors, you could end up getting hurt, and we never want that! For this reason, we recommend against desensitizing lubes as a general rule.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health is a sexuality education and advocacy non profit dedicated to reducing sexual shame, challenging misinformation, and elevating the field of sexuality. For more information on our services and resources, visit thecsph.org

Part 5 Will cover Lube and Conception & Pregnancy

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